But it's also tough, she adds, because once you're on the dating scene you can feel like a teenager again, in that shaky, unconfident, not-sure-if-he'll-call sort of way.
So how can you make post-divorce dating—whether you're looking for a good time or a good (relationship-minded) man—less daunting?
Dating after divorce can be a minefield for the midlife woman.
Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays—not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups—is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. "A divorced woman may feel very vulnerable at this stage, in part because she used to have a spouse to 'protect' her and now she has to go out into the world on her own," says Diana Kirschner, Ph D, author of .
How long this is will depend upon many factors but it’s likely to be months rather than weeks.
For a couple of reasons: First, you are not putting all your eggs—or hopes—into one basket.
Second, you can compare what you like and don't like.
There is a grief process to go through which is similar to what happens when someone dies.
According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross there are five stages people go through when they suffer a loss – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.