recently) divorced, and you’re wondering if dating this man is a good idea. Some people might automatically say you shouldn’t date anyone who falls into this category, but I’m not a fan of telling someone whether they date someone. My approach is to help you get super realistic about what you want, and what you’re getting into, so that you can make your decision to stay or leave as as possible.You probably have a million questions on your mind. With that said, if you meet someone you’re really attracted to, but the ink on his divorce papers hasn’t yet had time to dry, you are going to need to approach some things differently if you want to minimize the risk of getting your heart broken.
Relationship fallout takes time to heal, and how long that healing takes depends on each individual.But if you are considering him as possible life-partner, it’s good to know what you’re getting into, so you can decide, very consciously, whether you want to wade into deeper levels of commitment with him.Here are some questions to consider: Did he leave Was there infidelity? It’s good to know why they decided to split up and how the split went.What are your needs, wants, and requirements for a fulfilling relationship, and how divorced or separated are the least likely to be emotionally available for a new relationship.This is because they might still be recovering from their recent breakup; the painful emotions, anger, and sense of loss might still be very fresh and raw. It really depends on where his readiness is, and whether your experience of him meets your relationship requirements.