A person may also identify as transgender without making such changes.
Dating as a person who is transgender can feel nearly impossible.
A transgender person may have persistent feelings, beginning as early as childhood, of gender dysphoria—a disconnect between the person's primary and secondary sex traits and designated gender and the gender that person identifies with.
While many children who experience such feelings do not go on to identify as transgender in adulthood, long-standing gender dysphoria is a common experience of adults who do identify as transgender.
I was bisexual "then" but am pansexual now, and have always dated more women than men, but for this experiment I wanted to get a feel for the "typical" dating experience of the average man or woman.
So for my male profile I listed that I was seeking women only, and for my female profile I listed that I was seeking men only.
But I would soon find out that they have disadvantages too.
Unfortunately, this is a defense that can still be used in 49 states.
As far as my gender identity, I decided to go "stealth" — my profile did not state that I was transgender, and therefore it allowed for people to contact me without it spurring in them a sexual identity crisis or terminal freak-out.
Me - February 2015There is endless discussion inside the community about when to disclose a person's trans status during dating.
I'm sitting at a unique crossroads — I'm presently transitioning and living as a woman for the first time in my life, when so recently I was walking through the world looking, for all intents and purposes, like a man.
That experience — of presenting, being perceived, and dating as a man — is still in my recent memory, albeit fading quickly.