Dating an abstinent dating with a purpose

We were looking forward to sharing that intimacy once we were married.

I innocently assumed that all of that work on both our parts to remain chaste would pay off with a hot, passionate sex life after we had finally said "I do." I assumed this Neither of us had had any personal experience, we hadn't had candid talks with other married friends, and I hadn't really even had an adequate sex education class in school.

" Let's just say...things didn't work out as planned. I was diagnosed with Vaginismus shortly after returning from the honeymoon (and after a week of tears and pain and frustration).What if we candidly discussed the psychological effects that sex has on your brain?I'm not saying that pastors should start preaching this stuff from the pulpit.Even though I knew that they had lived together for several years before getting married, I never thought of them as being hypocritical, but rather I believed they did their best to keep me from making the same mistakes that they had made in their youth. In response to the many warnings about premarital sex from my church, parents, and elsewhere, I embraced an extreme: I restricted my dating life to a handful of guys in college and beyond, and I even decided to refrain from kissing the man who'd become my husband until our wedding day.We were dating for almost exactly a year before we got engaged, and we were engaged for five months before we got married.