Using this book as a resource helps facilitate an orderly approach to gleaning from God’s Word topics related to marriage. How and why did you decide that you should get married? Since you are postponing this requirement to the next meeting, this won’t be completed. Pre-Marriage counseling is a process, and it’s better to get to the heart of the matter rather than to complete a checklist.
At this point, it should be noted that if you have not read the book and done the assignments with your spouse, by all means stop and do so now! Second, is the couple committed to a Christian marriage as defined in the Bible?
What follows is a guide for counselors to take a couple contemplating marriage, or engaged to be married, through a basic process of discovery. How is a Christian service and marriage different from other marriages? How do your friends and family (including children) feel about your engagement? Likewise, have the groom tell you the bride’s testimony of her faith. How well do they communicate about spiritual things?
Few things are more profitable than men and women committed to the study of God’s Word as it relates to marriage, particularly in today’s society. In other words, do they know how the other came to faith and can they tell the story? As you might guess, this approach can open up some wonderful and meaningful discussion.
You might have to meet privately, men with men, women with women, in order for this to surface as an issue to address.
This second meeting will cover chapters 3-11 in “Preparing For Your Marriage.” It should take place about one month after meeting one unless there were circumstances that required an additional meeting.
If they are involved physically, communicate clearly the expectation that from here on to the wedding, they must commit to refraining from physical intimacy.Counselors should feel free to adapt this approach to their own gifts and style, so long as the essentials are covered. This guide is intended to assist you in planning and working through the counseling process with your couple. From this approach, you might be able to glean the following. Does the couple talk about their faith with each other? Are they confident about the other’s conversion, and is it true faith so far as they can tell? Does the couple seem to have an interest in spiritual things? It is a delight to hear a couple talk about the Lord, what He has done in their life, and how He is still at work.Keep in mind also that each couple to be counseled will have different levels of spiritual maturity and needs. Some will be engaged for the first time; others may have been married before. The primary source to help you in organizing your meetings will be William J. This approach can also completely stump the couple!Mc Rae’s book “Preparing for Your Marriage.” You, your spouse, and the couple you are counseling, should have a copy of this book. Should that be the case, rather that allow them to “wing it,” make this an assignment they will be ready to do at the next meeting.Encourage the couple to complete the assignments separately. The church’s Pre-Marriage Counseling and/or Wedding Process, states that after the first meeting you and the Wedding Officiant are to decide if the couple qualifies to continue.